Community Guidelines:
- adhere to Group Meeting Rules (below) from Out Boulder
- confidentiality - what’s said here stays here / what’s learned here leaves here
- assume good intent and reflect on impact
- make space / take space
- challenge yourself to do things differently / not the same each time - (try not to always go over/under your time, don’t always go first/last, if you tend to not speak up - try something different!)
- listen actively -- respect others when they are talking.
- speak from your own experience instead of generalizing ("I" instead of "they," "we," and "you").
- trusting the silence --- take a breath
- be aware of your unconscious bias to ensure we are creating an inclusive environment
- be thoughtful about language - to not (re)traumatize the group, not using inflammatory language, or repeating hurtful statements
- focus on the topic - here it is to focus on our own parenting and own queer identity journey ... not focusing on other people, focus on our own journey!
- note: facilitators are mandatory reporters, so any discussion of physical or sexual abuse (especially to child/elder) or suicidality /homicidality will need to be reported.
Structure [monthly virtual parenting support group]
9:30-11:15a Shares (1hr 45m)
- identity: name, pronouns if you’d like, a bit about your family structure, a bit about your identity(ies) if you’d like
- highs & lows related to parenting / our own queer identity journeys
- utilize the Community Guidelines (above)
- take about 4-5 minutes (1 minute gentle reminder)
- space/pause after each share: [intention of indicating: What you say is important. I See You. Breathe In, Breath Out.]
- Resources / Support – share in the chat!
11:28a - 2mins at the end: community closing
11:30a - end. facilitators leave, but video link can stay open for informal "parking lot"
Purview of Group : Monthly virtual group gatherings, biannual/quarterly in person gatherings at OBC & email list of interested members with 2 emails / month
[NOT the scope: socials, activities outside of the official groups, content in the active email list]
Role of the Facilitator(s) – facilitate group, keep time, redirect if check-ins go over/outside of topic, track number of attendants, update large email list with next formal gathering, emailing about the group mtgs, organize bi/quarterly in person
Process of Removal - though this is extremely rare, it's important to have/know the boundaries. A member may be removed from the group if one of the following takes place:
- Hate speech in group
- Legal documents, such as a protection order/no contact
- Breaking confidentiality
- Other process of removal as decided by OBC with their final decision - OBC has the right to deny service
| obc_group_rules_policy.pdf |